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 on: May 10, 2015, 06:45:58 PM 
Started by quiltartist - Last post by Karen0909
Thanks Lorraine,
Mother's Day is always so hard and for me even more difficult this year.  My mom passed suddenly a few weeks ago the day before I returned home from Peru.  I too would like to acknowledge all the mom's out there today sending loving, peaceful thoughts and light.


 on: May 10, 2015, 06:25:03 PM 
Started by quiltartist - Last post by Loraine32
This is an amazing story.  I am also a Reiki practitioner - studying for the Master Reiki.

As it is Mothers Day today, I am wishing all mothers who have lost a child, peace and comfort in your memories and acknowledge to the hurting bereaved Mothers that I know how difficult your day has been and send love and caring out to you all.  It has been ten years since my son passed and I am amazed that I got through this.

Campbell's Mum

 on: May 09, 2015, 06:49:37 AM 
Started by Shelley - Last post by Lanny
I have lost my only daughter and my best friend. I feel lost and angry although it has been more than 2 and a half years. I have two son's but one is very sick and consumed with alcoholism and the other lives in another city. They do not seem to understand the things we do to comfort ourselves or the tremendous loss we feel on occasions such as Mother's Day. I feel very angry with the entire world and do not want to feel like this. I still cry every day. Everything reminds me of my daughter as we were so close. I miss her and I miss her children as we see them very seldom. I would not say that I have lost my faith, but it has definitely been shaken. I understand that I must function in this world and for my sons but it is difficult. Thank you for listening to my heartache. I know you are all feeling the pain that I feel.  Lanny

 on: May 06, 2015, 10:14:34 AM 
Started by quiltartist - Last post by Karen0909
Hello again Everyone,

I feel compelled to write another story of my most recent encounter with my daughter Naomi in Spirit.
I've been away from the site for the past month as I have been travelling.  I finally decided to follow one of my dreams of visiting the country of Peru.  It's been on my BUCKET LIST for a few years now and I finally decided to book it and go.  Sorry if this is a long winded posting but it is what it is.
This was a solo adventure for me as my husband decided it really wasn't a place he felt drawn to visit.  That and the sore knee that keeps hiking from being pleasant for him meant I was on my own. After alot of research and talking with others who have been,  I opted for a 10 day Healing Retreat in the Amazon and a 10 day guided tour of the Sacred Valley including a visit to the most famous Machu Picchu.
My adventure began with 3 back to back flights to reach Iquitos, Peru.  This part of the trip was about 24 hours and then I was taken by mototaxi along muddy, washed out roads to reach the motorized canoe.  The canoe then took me an hours trip down the river to reach my final destination at Nihue Rao, the spiritual center where I would be for the next 10 days.  Needless to say I was very tired with no sleep upon arrival,  although happy and excited as well.  There were six other new arrivals also,  and we sat and talked amongst ourselves getting to know each other.  A young man who was a volunteer "helper" made everyone feel at home and asked us all about our lives and jobs back home.  I happened to mention that I was once a nurse in a past life,  but most recently a yoga teacher. 
An hour or so later as we all were trying to get our phones and Ipads to work to let families know we had arrived safely,   I heard my name being called by "the helper". As I entered the dining area I saw a couple of new arrivals seated having some lunch.  I could see a young woman was in trouble and was told by a man she was allergic to seafood, and she had just eaten what he thought was chicken. It was not chicken, and the woman was having an anaphylactic reaction.  I could not believe what I was witnessing and my heart was pounding out of my chest,  I knew there was no 911 here in the Amazon. The man had gotten some benadryl tablets he brought with him and she had taken half a tablet.  Still sitting up with help but with her eyes closed and unable to respond,  I asked the "helper" if they had an epipen?  Off he ran and returned with an epipen in hand.  With the woman collapsing, not having my glasses and the surreal situation I messed up.  Holding the epipen the wrong way I accidentally injected it into my own finger.
Cursing and not believing what I had just done I hoped and prayed he could come up with another epipen.
No more epipens!!
Trying to stay calm,  but fearing the worst, I was yelling at the woman to "Stay Here" and that she "had to swallow"  as I tried to get more Benadryl into her.  As a Reiki practitioner I also laid my hands on her to give healing energy, and I screamed silently for Naomi to please help or get help NOW as this girl was dying. 
Thank God for miracles,   as a few minutes later her foaming at the mouth stopped and her breathing became more normal.  Still not able to open her eyes or respond she seemed aware but "paralyzed".
We moved her to an area to lay her down on her side where we could keep fanning her and wiping her down with cold water to keep her conscious.  After more Reiki she finally began to vomit and within a few hours she was conscious and feeling well again.
I will be forever grateful for the help I received to keep this woman alive. I know without a doubt I had help from Spirit.  When talking with her after,  this woman's perception was very interesting.  She said she knew she was in big trouble but she felt so calm and cared for at the same time.  She wasn't able to respond but she could hear everything that was going on and she knew she had to swallow even though she didn't know if she could.  She will always travel with an Epipen from now on!
I loved Peru and would highly recommend it if anyone has ever felt drawn to visit.  It was an amazing, magical visit for me.

 on: April 26, 2015, 03:45:30 PM 
Started by quiltartist - Last post by Loraine32
I am very sorry for all your losses.

I had to write and say how inspirational all of your messages are and thank you very much for sharing.

After reading the messages, I feel uplifted - certainly not ignoring the terrible tragic circumstances you all have to endure - but the stories as written are comforting and the description of the messages from the other side, are awesome.

Campbell's Mum

 on: April 13, 2015, 09:42:47 AM 
Started by TC - Last post by TC
Hello, I am the sole survivor of my immediate family. I lost my brother, father and mother. I am currently seeking individuals who are also sole survivors who would like to open up and share their story for a book. When my last immediate family member was dying, I sought out materials or support groups for those who had no immediate family left and could find none. So when I became a sole survivor I wanted to make sure that those going through this situation could find solace in the stories of others.

I am seeking individuals whose parents are gone and they have no siblings (either through loss or from being an only child). You must be willing to tell your complete story. You will remain anonymous. You will not be compensated monetarily but will receive a free copy of the book upon its completion should I include your story.

I desperately sought others in my situation and could find no one. These stories would be beneficial to those that, at this very moment, are also on a search for others like themselves.

If this is you and you are interested in sharing your story, let me know here. 

 on: April 06, 2015, 12:10:13 AM 
Started by danagoodman - Last post by danagoodman

Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak whispers the o'er-fraught heart and bids it break.  ~William Shakespeare
I am always reading about grief-to help others, to help myself, to learn what it means to truly grieve and step into it bravely and not cower away.  Someone recently commented after watching a TV interview about In the Cleft that I am grieving too much.   Yes, I thought, you are right-most definitely you are right.  I am grieving too much.  But, I’m healthy, I love other people, I care about injustice, I wake up every day and see beauty around me.  Yet, in the midst of it all I grieve.  That is my right.  Joy and grief kiss each other.   Pain is what makes joy more sacred and beautiful.    Beauty is more poignant because I have walked through the fire of adversity.   To know your heart, the fullness of its expression, is to be true to yourself.  If you’re sad, feel it deeply.  If you’re joyful, let it burst out without limits.   The worst condition of all is numb apathy.  I’ve been there too and that’s the condition that scares me most.
I was reading some articles by grief expert Alan Wolfelt and one in particular impressed me.  His articles can be found at
He says, “As a bereavement caregiver, I am a companion, not a “guide” (which assumes knowledge of another’s soul I cannot claim).  To companion our fellow human beings means to witness and learn as opposed to playing the “expert.”  Wolfelt’s 11 tenets of companioning the bereaved are as follows:
Companioning is about honouring the spirit; it is not about focusing on intellect.
Companioning is about curiosity; it is not about expertise.
Companioning is about learning from others, it is not about teaching.
Companioning is about walking alongside; it is not about leading or being led.
Companioning is about being still; it is not about frantic movement forward.
Companioning is about the discovering the gifts of sacred silence it is not about a filling every painful moment with talk.
Companioning is about listening with the heart.  It is not about analyzing with the head.
Companioning is about being present to another person’s pain; it is not about taking away or relieving the pain.
Companioning is about respecting disorder and confusion; it is not about imposing order and logic.
Companioning is about going to the wilderness of the soul with another human being; it is not about thinking you are responsible for finding the way out.
I appreciate and give thanks to Alan Wolfelt for the work he is doing in changing how people look at grief and mourning.!Mumford-and-Sons-William-Shakespeare-and-Remedies-For-the-Brokenhearted/c1q8z/552203090cf2aa1811855b3f


 on: April 06, 2015, 12:05:55 AM 
Started by tsoccer126 - Last post by danagoodman
I am sorry.  I lost my oldest son, but not my only one.  I can't fully relate to what you are going through, but I stand with you in your pain.  I am so very sorry you lost your precious child.  There are no words for this kind of pain.  I send you my love,

 on: April 06, 2015, 12:02:51 AM 
Started by quiltartist - Last post by danagoodman
I am so very sorry.  I was so saddened with all you have endured.  I lost a husband and son to cancer, but your losses have happened without warning, which is a whole different kind of grief.  So sudden and shocking.  I'd love to connect with you.  My email is  I send you all my love.

 on: April 05, 2015, 11:55:50 PM 
Started by Josephs-Mommy - Last post by danagoodman
Such a beautiful post.  Joseph would be so pleased with the way you continue to honour him.  Much love to you.  Dana

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