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March 20, 2025
Susan - Grief and Trauma

Grief and Trauma After the Palisades Fire

Shortly after the Palisades fire destroyed our sweet and beautiful town, I began reaching out to media, hoping to get them to address the inevitable grief and trauma in the aftermath of the fire. And I have been frustrated. No media I spoke with seemed interested. As a grief and trauma expert, I understood that grief and trauma would soon visit those whose houses had burned to the ground—who had lost everything. And I knew that many with houses still standing would be going through their own, different grief and trauma.
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October 20, 2020
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Let This Darkness Be a Bell Tower

Quiet friend who has come so far,
feel how your breathing makes more space around you. Let this darkness be a bell tower and you the bell. As you ring,
what batters you becomes your strength. Move back and forth into the change. What is it like, such intensity of pain? If the drink is bitter, turn yourself to wine.
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May 26, 2020
Post-Traumatic Stress

Survivors’ Near-Miss Experiences On 9/11 Linked To Post-Traumatic Stress

People who narrowly avoid disaster do not necessarily escape tragedy unharmed, and their knowledge of the victims' fate shapes how survivors respond to traumatic events, according to the results of a new paper by a University at Buffalo psychologist that explores the effects of near-miss experiences associated with the 9/11 terrorist attacks.
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January 13, 2008
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2008 – Peace of Heart Fund-Raising Dinner

  2022 We will always love you Bob. Thank you for the years of laughter. Read: A tribute to Bob Saget. Bob Saget Radio Interview Just prior to receiving the griefHaven Peace of Heart™ award, Bob Saget was interviewed on public radio about griefHaven, his own losses of all four of his sisters and brothers, how he, his father and mother found ways to cope, and his thoughts surrounding grief and receiving this prestigious award. Listen: Listen to Bob Saget. 2008 Peace of Heart Fund-Raising Event Beverly Wilshire Hotel, Beverly Hills. Peace of Heart Recipient: Bob Saget Inspired by the memories of his beloved sisters, Andrea Marce Saget and Gay Audrey Saget, Bob Saget, well-known comedian and actor, has used his comedic gift to raise much-needed funds for the Scleroderma Research Foundation, which is dedicated to fighting a disease that remains incurable. Despite his busy life, Bob gives his time and lends […]
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October 19, 2020
earth stopped spinning

The Day the Earth Stopped Spinning

When I lost my child,
the earth ceased to spin.
The moon will not rise,
the tide won’t come in.

The sun insists on having its way,
Blasting its rays and rising each day.
Another day comes,
my child is not here;
Another day comes,
I live my worst fear.

Each morning I wake with the same painful thought;
Why am I here when my sweet child is not?
All moments that pass, I question this fate;
While other lives carry on, I sit and I wait.
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September 20, 2022
Anne Roberts and Wayne Neiman

Revisiting A Family’s Message

We wrote the article below more than 15 years ago about how we dealt with the loss of our son Mitchell. The article is being shared again because it remains a very accurate reflection of our grief process for the first ten years. Since that time, we have continued to progress, and we are doing well. Wayne has joined Anne in co-facilitating child loss groups for griefHaven. It is a meaningful way for both of us to help grieving parents and honor Mitchell’s legacy
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July 16, 2020
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Why Are Memories Attached to Emotions So Strong?

Memories linked with strong emotions often become seared in the brain. Most people can remember where they were on 9/11, or what the weather was like on the day their first child was born. Memories about world events on Sept 10, or lunch last Tuesday, have long been erased. Why are memories attached to emotions so strong? "It makes sense we don't remember everything," says René Hen, PhD, professor of psychiatry and neuroscience at Columbia University Vagelos College of Physicians and Surgeons. "We have limited brain power. We only need to remember what's important for our future wellbeing."
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December 5, 2022
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What Are Our Choices?

How do we handle the road stretching before us when we are grieving? Erika, my daughter and only child, died at the age of 32 in 2002 from a rare sinus cancer. I started griefHaven a year later with the love and support of many people. Pre-Erika’s death, time felt like my friend. Post-Erika’s death, time felt like my tormentor, dragging along every day, stretching out in front of me as an endless series of moments to live through and roads leading endlessly on and on.
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June 9, 2020
Older Adults Remember Better

Why Some Older Adults Remember Better Than the Others

Even among healthy people, a faltering memory is often an expected part of aging -- but it's not inevitable. "Some individuals exhibit remarkable maintenance of memory function throughout late adulthood, whereas others experience significant memory decline. Studying these differences across individuals is critical for understanding the complexities of brain aging, including how to promote resilience and longevity," said Alexandra Trelle, a postdoctoral research fellow at Stanford University. Building on studies that have focused on young populations, Trelle and colleagues are investigating memory recall in healthy, older adults
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May 24, 2020
Telling the Story

Does Telling the Story Of What Happened Instead of Pushing It Away Help? –finding meaning

I have read and heard you speak about the need to revisit and retell the story of the tragic death of a loved one in order to find meaning in the event. What stands out in your comments is obvious, but should be underlined, in my view: the profound Truth about the need to address the traumatic event of a loved one’s dying, that is, the “ugly and difficult” narrative itself, before the full back story of the lost one, in context, can be freed. I just had to comment on this. It seems so apparent.
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