November 14, 2017

Interview With Former Mayor of Los Angeles, Richard Riordan

Richard Riordan Interviewed by Susan Whitmore My name is Dick Riordan , and my former wife, Genie, and I had five children—four daughters and a son. My son was killed in a scuba diving accident picking up shellfish to cook for his friends 21 years ago, and my daughter died of a heart attack when she was 19 about 19 years ago. My daughter’s name is Carol, and my son’s name is Billy. Billy loved to cook. So he would go out in the early mornings in a shallow bay and pick up shellfish to take home and cook for his friends. One morning 21 years ago, he went out in this bay, in about 15 or 20 feet of water, and he died there. Even so, we buried Billy at sea because he wanted to have his body recycled if anything ever happened to him. Of course, we never […]
October 4, 2024

Bridging the Gap After a Child Dies

Each of us has coped in our own way, and we continue to function in practical terms, although the early months were pretty rocky for us both, as you might expect. We’ve been seeing a couples therapist who has been helpful in coaching us through various disagreements more peacefully, and this has helped our communication about points of friction between us.
August 11, 2020

Helping A Grieving Grandparent

“When a grandchild dies, grandparents grieve twice. They mourn the loss of the child and they feel the pain of their own child’s suffering. Sometimes we forget about the grandparents when a child dies. You can help by not forgetting, by offering the grandparents your love, support and presence in the weeks and months to come.” ~ ~ ~ A child or young adult has died. Everyone who loved the child is now faced with mourning this tragic, untimely death. The child’s parents are heartbroken. But what about the grandparents? How might they be feeling? How can you help them with their unique grief? This article will guide you in ways to turn your concern for the grandparents into positive action.
March 8, 2018

Interview With Dr. Jack Jordan

Dr Jack Jordan Interviewed by Susan Whitmore Susan: You have co-authored three books on the subject of suicide: After Suicide Loss: Coping with Your Grief; Grief After Suicide: Understanding the Consequences and Caring for the Survivors; and the latest book coming this Fall, Devastating Losses: How Parents Cope With the Death of a Child to Suicide or Drugs. Why did you begin doing bereavement work in the first place? Dr. Jordon: I’ve been a grief counselor for most of my professional life and was then drawn to suicide survivors 15 years ago. I started as a family therapist and then got into grief and bereavement for several reasons. First, my father died of cancer when I was in my mid-20s, and that was a life changing experience. Also, when I was young, I thought of becoming a minister and was interested in spiritual issues. So that side of my personality was drawn to […]
May 26, 2020

The Mistake I Made With My Grieving Friend

A good friend of mine lost her dad some years back. I found her sitting alone on a bench outside our workplace, not moving, just staring at the horizon. She was absolutely distraught and I didn’t know what to say to her. It’s so easy to say the wrong thing to someone who is grieving and vulnerable. So, I started talking about how I grew up without a father. I told her that my dad had drowned in a submarine when I was only 9 months old and I’d always mourned his loss, even though I’d never known him. I just wanted her to realize that she wasn’t alone, that I’d been through something similar and could understand how she felt.
February 22, 2015

2015 – Live Your Best Life Luncheon

Welcome to Our 2015 Live Your Best Life Luncheon There? Great! Enjoy the memories and share the link with others. Not there? No problem! Take a walk down memory lane and feel like you were there! Susan Whitmore (Founder & President) & Wendi Knox (Featured Speaker) What a beautiful day for a fundraising event. But of course, griefHaven events are so much more…they are days filled with love, compassion, seeing old friends, meeting new ones, and a place where people are enveloped in love. This event was just that. We don’t need to go into details, for it is true that a picture speaks a thousand words. So sit back and enjoy spending this time with us—either again or for the first time. Thank you to all 200 of you who showered the people with love and shared your generosity with griefHaven so that another year of helping those who […]