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September 21, 2022
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A Love Letter to Grief

In our culture, when a woman dies young, we dress her as a bride before cremating her. I remember walking into the backroom of the chapel, my mom’s friends huddled and whispering their concerns that I’d have to see her corpse again. I felt no less fine than I had since her diagnosis four months prior.
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April 16, 2021
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Spanking May Affect the Brain Development of a Child

Spanking may affect a child's brain development in similar ways to more severe forms of violence, according to a new study led by Harvard researchers. The research, published recently in the journal Child Development, builds on existing studies that show heightened activity in certain regions of the brains of children who experience abuse in response to threat cues.
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April 22, 2026
Guilt After Mother’s Passing

Guilt After Mother’s Passing

Men are often taught to suppress grief, but unexpressed sorrow deepens suffering. Drawing from personal loss and decades of research, Dr. Ken Druck explores how cultural pressure to “be strong” prevents healing. True recovery begins when men allow vulnerability, seek support, and learn self-compassion—becoming stronger in the broken places.
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September 22, 2022
Q & A with Dr. Neimeyer

Why Do I Feel So Guilty

There is an unwritten code in our culture—one that is an explicit prescription in many world cultures—that presumes that we honor the dead when we wear our grief like a dark shroud, visibly signaling to others our pain and longing and separating us from the world of the living, especially on more joyful occasions. And of course this can correspond to our own felt need to maintain our bond with our loved ones
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September 21, 2006
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Healing the Grieving Heart

September 21, 2006 San Francisco, California Healing the Grieving Heart Internet Radio – 9:00 a.m. Healing the Grieving Heart On September 21, 2006, Susan Whitmore was interviewed on the grief radio show, “Healing the Grieving Heart.” The title of the show was Finding Meaning After Losing Erika. To hear that radio show now, click on this link
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January 27, 2026
How Men Deal with Loss

How Men Deal with Loss, and What They Need Most

Men are often taught to suppress grief, but unexpressed sorrow deepens suffering. Drawing from personal loss and decades of research, Dr. Ken Druck explores how cultural pressure to “be strong” prevents healing. True recovery begins when men allow vulnerability, seek support, and learn self-compassion—becoming stronger in the broken places.
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October 8, 2006
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Tu Nidito Conference in Tucson

  October 8, 2006 Tucson, Arizona Tu Nidito Conference Susan Whitmore will be speaking at the Tu Nidito Conference in Tucson, Arizona on October 8, 2006. For more details, please go to www.tunidito.org. Tu Nidito Children and Family Services is an organization that provides comprehensive, coordinated, child-centered support for children and families dealing with serious illness or the death of a loved one. Thousands of children and families have received services through Tu Nidito’s programs, and The Erika Whitmore Godwin Foundation and griefHaven are proud to be a part of the wonderful service provided by Tu Nudito.        
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September 20, 2022
Anne Roberts and Wayne Neiman

Revisiting A Family’s Message

We wrote the article below more than 15 years ago about how we dealt with the loss of our son Mitchell. The article is being shared again because it remains a very accurate reflection of our grief process for the first ten years. Since that time, we have continued to progress, and we are doing well. Wayne has joined Anne in co-facilitating child loss groups for griefHaven. It is a meaningful way for both of us to help grieving parents and honor Mitchell’s legacy
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